I recently read a line from a poem that went "Give up all hope of having a better past." I think this is where people can get stuck underneath it all. There is that fundamental "why?" question, why did this happen? why to me?

Trying to let go of that is something that I've actively done because stop dog is right, we cannot just erase these things. In that sense it is futile. But the overall work can lead elsewhere so I don't believe that we give up when we accept that about our pasts.