IMHO, you are not obligated to let anyone take care of your child, especially if you have reservations. Stop talking to the family about it, get busy and find someone you absolutely trust with your precious baby. Make the arrangements you need to without the input (read: interference) from your H's family. If his mom goes crazy over it, oh well...it is your & your H's job to find the safest place for your child. This is your little family, you both need to protect it. And the less drama this child has to endure, the better. Again, IMHO