I guess to be honest I feel misunderstood in various ways which feels bad because this is a really difficult issue. First saying my first post was "dry" feels like a really odd thing to say. I talk about working with my therapist on something very traumatic and mention school secondarily as the background reason why I was taking this up now. Trying to work this through in therapy so that land mines don't explode in public seems both responsible and legitimate. It also seems far from "dry."

I do not have to self-disclose at school, but I was concerned with it coming out anyway, say in a moment of vulnerability. As far as my issues and the therapy room, I already addressed that a few times along the way. First I don't currently work with clients who have this issue or trauma in general and said so already. I wouldn't work with clients who had issues similar to mine when I was currently working on them for myself. I also already said that for this issue in particular I would refer out, meaning I would not even take the client in the first place. And gave two solid reasons, one having to do with my own issues and the other with feeling that this issue needs someone who has experience or even specialized training. It is not unusual for therapists to select a set of issues that they primarily feel effective with and some that they think others would be better for. Another example would be substance use. It is not because I have issues since I don't have a history with that. It is simply that I don't think that is an area I want to concentrate on as the primary problem and there are plenty of people out there who do so a referable to others is more appropriate. Substance use of course will come up anyway and I won't suddenly refer someone. I just don't want to take cases where that is the main reason for therapy because I believe there are other people who focus on that much more than I do and have more experience so would be more beneficial.