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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro
Forgive me if I'm going to say a stupidiness.
Haven't you thought for a moment that she appreciates you and enjoy your company (you both spend lots of ours in the same office), so she is being like she is (funny, friendly...) but when she realized you wanted to be further with her, she wanted to put a stop.
What you say about she liking everyone, never being upset by people, optimist, glad, waiting the best from people...do you think a person like that can be a different thing to a nice person?
I'm learning now, yeah, I'm learning now, at my 42, how to deal with people. What is that about human relations. The fact that someone has different intentions towards us, to the intentions we have towards them, doesn't mean they don't care or they are bad people.
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I talked to my therapist about the situation and she said some things about this that made sense.
My coworker saw that I am interested and wanted to put a stop? NO, SHE DID NOT! She didn't give me a single clue that said "I know what you are doing and you should stop". She went on like nothing happened. This doesn't mean she is a bad person. It just means that she is extremely extroverted and that is the way she works. She craves attention, everything is about her and she doesn't leave too much space for other people. She also consciously or subconsciously does these things just to get male attention and validation that she is attractive. This is her ultimate satisfaction and she doesn't see other peoples emotions very well. She always lives in the moment, that she creates herself and she doesn't worry or complain about the future or the state of her life.
I wasn't able to see her manipulative agenda because... there are no other guys our age in the office, I've never met a person who is so extroverted (where I live people tend to be introverted, also I am inexperienced), I've fallen for her (looked at her in an idealistic way) and because I analyzed the situation, but couldn't put myself in her shoes because we are different.