I can relate to what you're saying. I don't have a problem with alcohol as long as i stay away from it, and i really dont have a hard time saying no. Im not that crazy about it. I get awful hangovers and depressed afterwards, so just dont wanna go there. But if somehow that first drink makes it past my lips, and i dont have to drive home that night, its goodbye charlie. Like i never bothered to learn how to control my drinking, because i just dont do it enough, so im just not motivated. Like even when i worked in an office, i didnt go out drinking with my coworkers.

Instead of AA, there is or was a group called DrinkWise, that was supposed to teach you how to drink responsibly. Plus other things ive heard, is to alternate drinks with a soft drink or water; make sure you eat before and or during. There are probably other hints on the internet. I drink non-alcoholic beer in the summer, but like one bottle a week, and only if its screaming hot outside.