Thanks Brawny..

Secret Garden... yes I realize there is good advice here. Its just hard to swallow when stuff like this has happened over and over and over before with him. This is just the longest he's gone and I just dont get it how he could blow it off in front of dad like that. Maybe it is hard to handle but we all have our demons to face.. why doenst he ever have to face them? He's never lifted a finger to help with dad either... even to fix stuff around the house.. He is the one brother who is able bodied to do this. The other two have bad health isssues. Somewhere down the line I think he needs to step up and do something!!!