i had a long 27 year marriage which was cruelly ended by my ex ,long story, very painful , it naturally left me saddened by the way people we love can treat us so badly. i said to myself (after an awful) rebound relationship that i was staying single as with depression i feel relationships are harder than they have to be.i'm not so shut off to think that i'd never meet anyone as i feel i'm an ok person but i never thought i'd fall for a married woman. all my alarm bells, all my past experience of helping others relationships has flown out of my mind -- i know that there is no way i'd get involved i only ask the question why, the easy answer is why not!!!