
Jan 31, 2015, 11:51 PM
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Member Since: Nov 2014
Location: Roanoke
Posts: 59
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Originally Posted by lilodian4ever
I understand that you really like this guy and would like to stay informed.
As much as I agree with your perspective, it helps to try to put yourself in his shoes. Maybe he's going through a really tough time right now, maybe he is talking to NO ONE, not even his closest friends or family. And, maybe he needs his space, which includes not needing to give anyone updates about his condition.
I think it is too soon in the relationship for you to be overly concerned about him and/or the fact that he hasn't called. If I were you, I would just give him his time and space, and move on, trying to keep an open mind. Dating is like a tennis match. The ball has to be hit back n forth. If you have hit the ball to his court, let him hit it back.
The harsh reality is, no matter what a magical connection you think you may have with him, he may not call back. People will do what people wanna do.
I had a similar experience - first date was AWESOME, sparks flying everywhere, I even saw wedding bells ringing in the distance and a lot of "what if" - she stayed out late with me and even drank with me. That was the end of that ! I never heard back from her, and was left wondering why. I now know the answer ... one word ... "because".
Hope this helps. For your sake, please don't get too vested in this person. I don't want you to get disappointed and hurt.
I wish you the very best.
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Thank you for your response. I really don't want to hear back from him. Yes just to see how he is feeling and know that he will be OK. But as far as friends hanging out. nope to much has happened and I already have too people in my past to want more peoeple like this in my future. but again your reply did help and made me think of things little didderent. Thank again.
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Just taking one day at a time. If this doesn't work I will go to taking an hour at a time 
I think if I can work on getting out of denial, my life would be easier.
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