Thanks Archipelago, you said you felt bruised, I felt that too. And you say your current T ' does not dwell on his views of what he has interpreted about me'. I felt that my T really did dwell on her views, I felt like we spent too much time discussing her views, which didn't always make sense to me, what I really wanted/ want to do is talk more myself about my thoughts and feelings and experiences and be understood.

Lickety that sounds great that your T was genuinely sorry when you were hurt. I was really upset at times at some things my T said, but she never connected my feelings to the way she spoke to me or the words she said. I don't know if I should have expected her to be sorry, but I did expect this.

I saw this T for 9 months, despite all I'm saying I think parts of it really really helped me. I feel less sad, I've made little changes in my life. I'm less tense than I was. I'm planning on finding a new T and am worried that I won't find it so helpful. When I started therapy I thought that there is one thing that I could never talk about. Now I feel that I could talk about it one day, maybe to my next T, this is a huge leap forward that the shame about this is not so overwhelming.