I want to think before I make comments on the comments. In the meantime I recalled an important essay written by Firenzsci, an early follower of Freud, who broke with him because he had more realistic and radical views, including believing that children were in fact abused and it wasn't all in their heads as Freud thought. About this topic, he shows how the tenderness of a child is manipulated and the child takes on contradictory stances that end up causing problems later. This is something about that:

These children feel physically and morally helpless, their personalities are not sufficiently consolidated in order to be able to protest, even if only in thought, for the overpowering force and authority of the adult makes them dumb and can rob them of their senses.