Believe me, I did hesitate to offer to get her help for the reason you stated. Her response was, "Oh so this is my fault?" It made no sense. How she kept this hidden for the time she has is beyond me. Maybe I was just too in love to notice. I do feel like I am being blackmailed and manipulated. She has said more than once that she doesn't like being alone and wants to be taken care of. I wish this wasn't happening because I believe down in her heart she is a good person, just in need of help and refusing to get it. I believe now that if I had contact with her previous partners, they would tell me they were treated the same. Thank you for your reply.