hi falsedawn
your mother is not like all parents. it sounds very much like she has narcissistic tendencies and she is attempting to gain success and attention through you. this is not normal or fair for you. she is seeing you as an extension of herself and expecting you to live up to unrealistic expectations. please do not feel down on yourself because you cannot meet them, it is not possible. perfection is not possible. it may be where the anxiety from the ocd came from, trying to meet her expectations. it sounds like you are on the right track. keep doing your best until you can get out of there. focus on the good you get from her and understand the bad is because your mother is unhealthy. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome