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Originally Posted by LandC
I am at a point in my relationship that I don't know what to do. My girlfriend and I have been together for two years. We were happy, well connected and the future was bright in the beginning. About six months ago, she became very possessive. I did nothing to deserve this and have been faithful and supportive. I explained that this behavior made me very uncomfortable and needed to stop. Despite my request the behavior did not stop. I have since tried to end the relationship several times. Each time she threatens suicide. If I do not answer texts or her calls within a short period of time, she leaves messages screaming at me and threatening suicide or to come to my work or home and make a scene.
I have offered to get her professional help but she refuses. This is now affecting my health, well being and my job. I feel hopeless, manipulated and see no way out of this situation without it ending badly. Can someone please give me some suggestions? Thank you all in advance.
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Sorry, pal, but I see it ending badly regardless.
I recently got involved with a suicidal woman who was quite manipulative, though not as much as your gf.
However, I can tell you one thing with supreme confidence. You need to get outta there, and stay out. Whatever you say you will do ... you MUST do. You must show no fear. This is tough, I know, because you were with this person for 2 years. But, at this point, the relationship has already been compromised, so you need to treat this as a life/death situation for YOU.
Your first priority is to get out safe and sound. This is the tough part ... even if she does hurt herself, you need to be able to tell yourself that you were not responsible for that. Sounds cold, but no, it's entirely practical ... that's all you have at this point. You cannot turn this into a win-win for you and your gf. Your gf is not going to win this one, regardless of what happens. You can come out with your health and sanity intact. Do it.