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Old Feb 01, 2015, 03:43 PM
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Originally Posted by Brown Owl View Post
Do you think there is any chance of my T adapting to how I wish my therapy was? It's not really the emotions that are the issue - it is the fact of her not probing me to understand the things I say and not giving me more space to talk, not sitting with how things look to me for a while before she gives her thoughts, it's the fact of her thoughts being so dominant in there I feel overpowered. I have tried to ask for this, I don't know how well I expressed it. Her response was to suggest that I don't want to do therapy that I just want to talk as friends. This pissed me off somewhat. Despite my denial she continued to suggest this, at my final appointment she repeated this, saying I had a problem with being a client and then said 'you are my patient'. It was only after woods I thought how peculiar this was and felt a bit angry. She also suggested that I don't have faith in psychotherapy because my mother doesn't. This pissed me off too as I have huge faith in therapy.

I suppose there really is no chance of her adapting. Even now I think shall I go to see her one more time to try? But having written this it has reminded me why I decided this is not therapeutic anymore. Quitting is so so hard. I don't really want to quit. I have an appointment with a new T on Wednesday. She sounded nice on the phone.
From your description, I would say there's no chance of her adapting one bit. She sounds shaming, almost. My previous therapist discouraged my talking by saying things like, "Oh well," and "It's just story." I felt shut down, but didn't feel I had enough energy to leave. Fortunately, she left by moving away. The one I have now is nothing at all like that. I shiver to think I stayed with that one as long as I did.