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Old Feb 01, 2015, 08:09 PM
PaulaS PaulaS is offline
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I saw a potential T last week and got a pretty good impression of her. A couple of days later I wrote her an e-mail where I told her the things Iīd thought of as positive during the meeting. Just on four or five rows in the e-mail. I also just stated that Iīd been abandoned by my former T but that it hadnīt to do with any kind of crossing boundaries within therapy.

Last I asked her about a meeting in this week to come, another evaluation session.

She replied but mentioned absolutely nothing about the things I wrote to her. I now mean something like "Iīve read your text, lets talk about it more in the next session" or "Your previous therapy doesnīt affect me, letīs schedule a meeting on that date and time". She just asked me about a certain appointment time and then signed with her name.

I mean, if you receive an e-mail in any other situation from a person you donīt know that well and youīre about to meet and by that, you donīt discuss things further in an e-mail but when you actually meet you still comment on it! Saying "weīll talk further at the meeting" or something just to confirm youīve read the text and that yourīre at least somewhat interested in what the other person have to say.

Itīs just crap that many T:s think they have some kind of privilege to act in an impersonal way and in ways "normal" people wouldnīt. In this case there is no reason at all for her to not comment on the things I wrote in that short manner I described earlier in this post.

I think it just shows that sheīs trying to make me uninterested of showing up but of course she canīt suddenly say "I have no free appointment times" from one week to another. And she canīt ignore answering my e-mail either.

I felt she was a bit hesitant about the fee I said I was able to pay her when I saw her at the first evaluation session, she didnīt say no to it but she didnīt seem convinced that fee was enough or acceptable.

She was one of those T:s I saw as possible to start therapy with, now Iīm no longer sure about it. I interpret her answer as not being that interested, that she doesnīt bother if Iīll contact her again or not.