Thanks for this. I cant believe the way everybody is jumping on growli. Just about anybody here on pc has had the experience of running into their t in public and being taken aback. Then, their being with other people? Yeah, freakout time. This is how transference works. I see no psychological understanding here. No understanding of how it feels. Instructions on how to avoid a situation are NOT what therapy is about!

Honestly, if anybody else were getting lambasted like this, one after another taking their turn, showing off how they know what the so-called right thing to do is - well, show me where that has happened last. How is saying, "i told you so" being supportive? How about - that must have been quite a shock. Why didnt she tell you she was going to be there? Im sorry you got so upset. What can you do tonight to recover? How can we help?