Having alters, especially of both genders, makes it much more complex. Was there a type of non-binary that you related to the most?
I'm also wondering if it possible you relate more to the female alters because they are more caring, gentle and considerate because that's just who you are? Or that you just don't relate to how the male alters are or maybe a bit of both? Or is it the being female that you relate to? Sorry lots of questions, you don't have to answer any you aren't comfortable with, but some things to think about. Remember this is just about discovering yourself which doesn't usually come all at once. It takes a lot of time for most people. Do you have a therapist you can also discuss things with?