I think you should listen to what the original t said. From all you wrote, anyone who experienced that would be traumatized. Glad to hear you recognize this enough to be reading this book. After you mentioned it in your post I downloaded it to my kindle and have loved reading to it. So thanks for mentioning it in your post. I even relate to stuff although my situation is no where near as bad as yours sounds (childhood abuse, etc.). This makes me feel ashamed of even being in therapy and taking up the therapist's time when she could be helping someone who was much more traumatized (or actually traumatized, maybe I wasn't even, I don't know). I always feel guilty cause what if I'm using up resources that someone else could use (or needs) more than me. So I really related to the last 2 sentences of your post.

Maybe you might could look at finding a new therapist who is more in line with what you need, and more attuned to who you are and what you have actually experienced.