I am having a confidence crisis of sorts. I worry because this attitude in myself seems to really piss off other people (today, that took the form of one angry driving instructor who seemed irritated by driving phobia tears.)

My CBT T last week was heading there too --after saying out loud the worries that go round in my head, he said "keep thinking like that and of course you will be demotivated".

Comments like that really hurt. I'm not trying to think negatively, it extremely automatic. I've read up on DBT, ACT, "letting thoughts drift by", all these things are occasionally useful but not when I get into a funk that I'm a complete failure.

How to dig out from deeply negative thoughts? How do I not bring out the worst in others?