Here's a question that I don't know is appropriate or not.

What is everyone's opinion about cyber-sex? Do you consider it a nice way for two friends (not strangers) to be with each other, or is it a perverted method made possible because of today's technology?

I've known this man online for about 3 years now. He's in an online Group with me. We've always joked around, but never really had any big discussions and certainly never emailed or IM'ed each other. Well, that all changed in the past couple of weeks. I was having a flashback of sorts, and I couldn't find any of my online buddies to talk with. I saw that he was available, and he stayed online with me all day (while he was at work) right up until the evening when I went to bed. He helped to keep me calm, and was the nicest gentleman you could imagine. He has anxiety issues too, and he wanted to help to keep my level down.

Well, we started emailing and IM'ing after that, and before you know it, we're writing out little scenarios that got pretty hot. Lol. And then the other night, I went on Messenger and asked him to take me somewhere.....and boy, did he ever! I've never done that before. EVER. And I'd forgotten that my body could feel those sensations, it's been so long since I dropped my guard in real life. Cyber seemed safer, and I really did appreciate this man who I have been calling a friend.

We will never meet because of distance, but I'm sure the "game" will progress to the phone. But the thing is.....we have long conversations about ourselves and our days and don't even have to discuss sex at all. I think he's just a genuinely nice guy, not playing me. I've helped bring him down from his anxiety a couple of times, and he's always there for me.

Is cyber-sex taboo? I wouldn't engage in it with just some stranger I ran across on the internet who wanted to do that. I've "known" this guy for a few years. And it's not all about sex. He *is* a friend, albiet an online one.

I'm almost scared to read your responses. No, I'm not married anymore. No, the kids don't live at home anymore. Yes, I locked the cat up in the bedroom! LOL.

Am I entering into unacceptable society? Is this still considered wrong and bad and deviant? Or is it an approved part of our culture now?

Sandy