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Originally Posted by Ididitmyway
Paradoxically, the negative thoughts won't have a grip on you if you stop trying to dig them out but accept and embrace them instead. The more you beat yourself up for having those thoughts, the more they will persist. Do you know the expression "what you resist persists"?
Frankly, I think, you'd be more helped by the therapist who would help you understand the origins of your negative thoughts and would be more accepting of you and where you are at the moment instead of instructing you to do the impossible and implicitly shaming you for not being able to do that. It seems like your current therapist is making you feel crappy about yourself, and there is nothing therapeutic about that, even if it's done unintentionally.
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I think it because of his CBT approach--T is almost too goal oriented sometimes and forgets the person behind the problem. In general he has been helpful and thoughtful but he does have his rude and clumsy moments.
I still have my psychodynamic T also who is much better at "root problems" than cbt T is. But CBT T has been better about concrete steps to achieving certain goals. Such is my dilemma!
Wish I could splice them into one T!!! I'm hoping to have the guts to tell CBT T that what he said was not helpful and makes me feel like he isn't on my side.