I think I might have been taught to avoid. Being the baby and the only girl; shy too with a shy mother. I was sheltered and reigned in when being a playful kid and naturally testing adventure. Also mistakes, mistakes in my family where always a reason to kind of withdraw from whatever it was and to avoid it the next time around. I think the healthy way of regarding mistakes are that they are necessary to learning. I still have trouble when I make a mistake in internalizing it.

But I often wonder... is there anyone that can say they got through childhood unscathed? I see with some of the young people I work with too much praise and coddling can lead to a rude awakening when they reach adulthood, in that not everyone is going to reward them for everything they do. Or they are very self-centric and not considerate of others. Is that just a thing with US children?