To be honest, I think that's the kind of thing a friend might say, but not a trained professional. Other people in our lives might get irritated and inadvertently try to make our self-doubts be about them (and that's bad enough!) but surely a therapist should be able to look at what you need without worrying about how it makes them feel, and work with you to find the answers to the questions you ask.

At the risk of sounding glib: If you knew, maybe you would not need therapy? (I am not saying that is the case - it is not as if we go to therapy for one isolated thing, at least I don't and I suspect you don't either). But that's the kind of question a good therapist should inspire enough confidence to work with - it's not something we should have to work out before going to therapy. It's like the Moomin comic where the family hires a new maid, and cleans the house in anticipation of her arrival.

I do understand not wanting to annoy T, by the way - I reason like that myself. But it's not really the best way to go about it, I think.