I used to have a best friend that stopped talking to me because of my suicide attempt. We were extremely close, talked and spent time with each other every day. In order for me to move on I've had to step back and analyze our relationship because I've been told by some how unhealthy it really was. She didn't allow me to drink or cut, threatening to never talk to me again if I did. She threw away my clothes that looked ''slutty'' with my consent. Minor things also like don't smoke in the street cos you look like a hooker. Basically she was very controling and i interpred it as care, that she cared about me and my welfare cos she always had a point and was always right. Why should I smoke at a busstop looking like a hooker to attract bad men that only want one thing? Why should I drink when I'm on medication? She always had a valid point. I'm now looking back trying to differentiate what was control and what was out of care. I'd deeply appreciate any opinions you guys might have on the subject. When does too caring become controlling? Thanks in advance.