Hello ptangptang,

Thank you for writing me

Yup, it's true there is a difference between long distance and live together relationships. Also, I think you caught me out there. I guess I was romanticizing my relationship by using the term soul mates especially since we are no longer officially in a relationship. We are currently still talking to each other because we get along well with each other.

I agree that to love is to let go and if we are meant to be together, we will end up together. I think I just wanted to make sure I didn't let go of a cherished relationship without putting in effort to ensure I have addressed misunderstandings and concerns from the both of us.

Q: 'how old is your mother' does she need someone to live with her and help her. Long term would you do that etc etc.

A: My mom is 55 years old and is physically normal and healthy. Being the only child, I feel that she is now lonely because my dad passed away six months ago and she has been living on her own ever since. Even though she does not need to be taken care of, I feel that me returning home (even for two to three years) would make her happy.

I think your gut feeling is that you want to stay in Australia and make a life for yourself. Maybe give yourself 6 months. If you don't get the job you want, then reconsider.

I do feel this way because I moved to Perth eight years ago as an international student to work towards where I am today. It was difficult studying and working at the same time and now that I have finished my postgraduate studies and gained my Australian permanent residency, I would like to make a life for myself. At the same time, the breaking up of this relationship makes me feel so lonely on the inside. I will take your advice and give myself six months and then re-evaluate my situation.