I think that a good and competent T should be capable of listening and understanding when you are not an actual physical danger to yourself or anybody else. Yes, I have said very similar things to my T. He has never suggested any kind of hospitalisation or other drastic measure. He did suggest medication, but never pushed it (in fact, the first thing he did when I started seeing him as a pdoc was to take me off the medication I was on - much later he suggested another kind of med, but again, that was just a suggestion.)

Yes, all Ts are different and not everybody will react in the same way. But there is also no requirement that you open up about everything at once, before you know whether the person you are talking to seems trustworthy.

I very much relate to what you say about life being basically unchanging, by the way. There are things I would like to get out of life which I am not going to get. That's just life. My T is having a hard time agreeing with me about that, but that doesn't make him a bad T, it is just something we disagree on, and it doesn't invalidate the good things therapy do for me.