The responses donīt have to come with a negative drive but they still show something. I keep searching for a T to be really sure Iīve done what I could to find one. If I search in a thorough manner but still donīt find one, Iīll know I canīt do anything to improve my situation. Thatīs how my whole life looks like. I try things out, I get disappointed and donīt go there again, why should I?
Iīve answered the e-mail from this potential T now. I used the same unnecessary shortenings of text, using both first name and surname and so on, strictly impersonal and unengaged. I confirmed the appointment time. You now see, Iīm already a bit irritated with her, not a good start.
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Originally Posted by IndestructibleGirl
I have to say, it does seem like you are shooting yourself in the foot with all these worries...you are assuming off the bat that all the responses have some kind of negative drive behind them. If I was viewing the world through that lens, I would be exhausted and could not be bothered trying to find a new therapist. What pushes you to keep searching even though they are all not good enough in their replies? I am curious.
I think you need to give somebody a chance, take the leap of faith, accept that sometimes they won't reply in an ideal way to information you venture, but that can still be okay. A dialogue between two people is going to be like that. They are not going to say the things you feel they should say.
What about having a chat with a real-life friend, somebody who knows you well and could help you assess are you sabotaging things before they even get off the ground for some reason that is not quite clear?
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