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Originally Posted by PaulaS
The responses donīt have to come with a negative drive but they still show something. I keep searching for a T to be really sure Iīve done what I could to find one. If I search in a thorough manner but still donīt find one, Iīll know I canīt do anything to improve my situation. Thatīs how my whole life looks like. I try things out, I get disappointed and donīt go there again, why should I?
Iīve answered the e-mail from this potential T now. I used the same unnecessary shortenings of text, using both first name and surname and so on, strictly impersonal and unengaged. I confirmed the appointment time. You now see, Iīm already a bit irritated with her, not a good start.
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What do they show?! You are making major assumptions!
Maybe it shows she has a different personal style of emailing to you. Maybe it shows she had three minutes to fire off a reply so focused on including the important information. Maybe it shows that she feels it is appropriate to veer more on the businesslike side, until you have had a few sessions, know one another better, and take first steps into an established relationship where warmth and interest are natural follow ons from that connection.
And this -
"I keep searching for a T to be really sure Iīve done what I could to find one. If I search in a thorough manner but still donīt find one, Iīll know I canīt do anything to improve my situation."
This sounds like you are desperate to prove to yourself (and, interestingly, to us, perhaps to reassure yourself further) that you are past help, past all redemption, past moving towards the life you really want.
What is more important to you? Getting a better life? Or being 'right' and proving there's nobody suitable to help you?