Hi growlithing-

I know I've asked you this before but I think it needs to be repeated. I think the most effective thing to do is to tell people what you need. I think that people here have an instinctive response to try to help someone when they see someone in pain or angst. That is why people respond with ideas, suggestions, advice. But, I feel like that is not what you want to hear. Am I understanding this right?