Look, you feel what you feel. At the same time, some reactions aren't necessarily very effective. It upset you. I disagree that you "shouldn't" have to deal with her personal life. She's a person. She has a life. You are a part of it, not all of it. So while yes, it upset you and okay, that's where you're at, I think many here are just saying, that's not a good place to stay. Ideally, a good place to aim for is where the rest of her life doesn't upset you - and how can we help point you in that direction so that you can be healthy and effective in your life?