I have followed most of your posts. I am sorry that you were hurt by LCM, regardless of whether it was unintentional or bad judgement on her part.

Obviously, she is very very important to you and could *possibly* be a good tool and resource for reaching goals in your life. At this point I know that you cannot imagine her ever being out of your life and even the thought of it sends you into a spin.

However, the fact is that she is not a licensed therapist at this point and therefore she is crossing a major line in the way she is treating you. There is a big difference between Life Coaches and Therapists.

I looked up a very good article on the difference between a LC and a Therapist. This quote stuck out at me: “I do not take on clients who, in my judgment, have serious mental/emotional problems — problems such as substance abuse, major depression and personality disorders,” he says. “When I suspect any of those issues, I refer the client to an appropriate mental health professional for a thorough evaluation and resume work once the client is emotionally stable.”

And here was another good quote: Coaches work with healthy clients who are striving to improve their circumstances, he says, and counselors work with persons needing help and hoping to identify dysfunction or trauma to heal and resolve old pain

I know you don't want to hear it. Your LCM is crossing a major line by doing more therapy with you than coaching. If she is in school to become a therapist, she should know this. I'm curious how many other clients she has and does she work out of an office with other coaches or professionals?

Please seek out the help of a trauma therapist who can truly help you.