Supportive doesnt have to mean agreeing. But i really dont think it means saying, "aha! We TOLD you to stop seeing her!" Thats what this feels like to me. A huge overreaction by the hive mind. This was one incident. We havent heard from growli in a while. Shes working. And so she has a pretty common transference reaction. That doesnt mean "run, forrest, run!" Is her dependence "categorically unhealthy"? I dont think you give up therapy that is working, the minute things get rough. You work thru the rough parts. Growli would have this reaction to any other t she sees in the wild. I know i did. Its not "unhealthy", its how it works. Maybe not for everyone, but for some of us. And we CAN get past it. We are not doomed because our mothers were doomed. The buck stops here.