It is hard to know whether she was controlling or caring... It is hard to have a friend who doesn't seem able to control themselves in ways that are good for them / care for themself in ways that are good for them.

I had a friend who dropped me after a suicide attempt, too. I think... Where he was at in his life... It wasn't good for him to invest more in me than I invested in myself... My attempt hurt him more than it hurt me.

Don't know if this makes sense.