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Originally Posted by hankster
Supportive doesnt have to mean agreeing. But i really dont think it means saying, "aha! We TOLD you to stop seeing her!" Thats what this feels like to me. A huge overreaction by the hive mind. This was one incident. We havent heard from growli in a while. Shes working. And so she has a pretty common transference reaction. That doesnt mean "run, forrest, run!" Is her dependence "categorically unhealthy"? I dont think you give up therapy that is working, the minute things get rough. You work thru the rough parts. Growli would have this reaction to any other t she sees in the wild. I know i did. Its not "unhealthy", its how it works. Maybe not for everyone, but for some of us. And we CAN get past it. We are not doomed because our mothers were doomed. The buck stops here.
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See, I don't really know what's going on with growli. All I know is what's going on in this thread and honestly, yes, it comes across as categorically unhealthy. When the reaction of coming into contact with another person's life is to basically break down, that's unhealthy. Look, yeah, it'd be majorly weird if I ran into my T and his wife. I'd probably feel a little "Whoa!" and then I'd shake it off. I depend on my T for a lot of things. And, he has a life outside of me.
I get that she may not be there yet and at the same time, it's not unsupportive to suggest that ideally that's a direction she should head. Breaking down to this extent is *not* healthy.
I was shocked to find out she's seeing a life coach and not an actual licensed therapist. It seems to me (again through this thread) that this woman is operating well outside her training.