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Originally Posted by licketysplit
I'm so glad she was so supportive. It's very much in keeping with how you've described her. Do you think maybe you feel less vulnerable when you're with her because, well...you're with her? In other words, the feelings you have when you're alone are eased when you're with her, so it's harder to tap into those vulnerable emotions. Just a thought. I'm not sure how you get around that, though, unless you could call her when you're feeling that way and leave a message?
If you were to provide her with a list of questions to ask, do you think you would rehearse your answers so much that you'd lose the emotion behind them?
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Interesting thought, but I actually don't think that's it...I think it has more to do with caring about her/caring about our relationship(?) so being afraid that if I am vulnerable, she will see how needy I am and run in the other direction (even though she has assured me 1000x that this will not happen). And I am just really really bad at being vulnerable in front of other people. It just never happens. And especially with her, she's very easy to talk to, so sometimes I tend to fall into my usual social role of being funny/witty/clever and making her laugh instead of trying to act in ways that I personally find pathetic and repugnant, ex. Acting childlike, whereas being funny is just easier and more natural for me...I've discussed this with her so many times, but still don't know how to overcome it.