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Originally Posted by divine1966
Obsession and attachment (unhealthy kind) could be the same thing.
But we all experience amount of emotional attachment to people we love but when it starts being unhealthy it becomes obsessive fixation.
Seeing a person in a public place and becoming so disturbed that you cry and have to leave work and drink is unhealthy obsession that is beyond regular attachment.
I love my daughter and would be very happy to see her in a public place, she lives too far for me to accidentally bump on her but I bump on my mom in public places, I love them but isn't disturbing to me in fact it is always joyous event and we always laugh how we ended up in the same place.
Maybe I would be surprised if my mom showed up at my work (I teach high school so no way she would show up there) but I wouldn't be upset or cry or drink. Why would I?
What you have is unhealthy and she is to blame as she supposed to help you grow not get worse.
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Obsession - an idea or thought that continually preoccupies or intrudes on a person's mind.
So by that definition, I would be obsessed if. I thought about LCM constantly or to the point that it was consuming my mind.
By your definition, an obsession is an unhealthy attachment. I think that being obsessed with someone is a type of unhealthy attachment, but I don't think that all unhealthy attachments are obsessive in nature.
I was upset because I was extremely off guard and overwhelmed. You're also comparing her to an actual mother which despite the word games I want to play, isn't totally honest. I'm not saying that my reaction was okay. I'm saying that I don't think that trying to shame me by falsely calling it an obsessive reaction is productive.