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Originally Posted by stopdog
What if you just went in and calmly described this to the therapist instead of acting out on it somehow? The break, if the weather creates one, may not be a bad thing as it could give you a chance to regroup a bit.
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thanks, SD. I only see my T every 2 weeks so I don't know if I need more time or not. I emailed her that I think I'm pushing her away. I can't get my car out of the snow so I may have to cancel anyway.
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Originally Posted by growlycat
Funny you should mention this. I've been feeing like a failure at trying to make progress with my issues. I called T to talk me out of canceling my appt this week. I'm hoping to hear from him!
Maybe as SD says tell her you are feeling this before your session. I'll try to do the same with mine!
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So I did email T that my painting triggered me, that I'm ashamed of the child, what if the adult me likes holding her hand, I don't deserve her love or caring, and I never told my Mom I loved her though I did. Gulp! A lot to say in one email. I'm very unsettled. I don't care if I can't go but I do care! I feel both ways. I hope you don't cancel, growly.
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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
I want to push my T away all the time (about every other week  ). She either will tell me when she notices or I will tell her if I notice. Then again, I also tell her when I want to lie to her 
For me, it's a cycle. I want to be clingy, so I push her away. But then I fear losing her, so I feel clingy. Both aren't healthy. So we talk about it so I can learn to find a balance and what that balance looks like.
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Thanks, Scarlet. Yeah, I feel the conflict too. I like feeling close to my T but suddenly became afraid. Maybe it's the love word that got mixed in. I don't understand love except for my kids.
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Originally Posted by Ididitmyway
It helps to take a little break when you feel like that, and later when emotions settle and you get back in balance, you will be able to continue your work in therapy. If your T was good so far he (or she?) won't mind you taking a break.
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Thank you. My T is a she, and no, she wouldn't mind my taking a break but I see her every other week anyway. I really want to see her tomorrow, I think, but I'm not sure I can get my car out of the snow! It would be okay to miss a session though I never have, except for vacations, in the 5 years I've been seeing my T. Tomorrow or next week is our 5 year anniversary.
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Originally Posted by hankster
I say we declare Tuesday "Senior Skip Day" like in high school? But in this case it means us old people are skipping t. Its too darn cold - getting out and fighting the elements just for that one hour of t wears me out and ruins me for the whole day. Just not worth it.
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I know what you mean! Is that one hour worth possibly getting stuck somewhere? Logically no way! But then I feel the ache and a voice whispers: "yes it's worth it."