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Originally Posted by hankster
Divine - you acted out your obsession in real life. Growli is acting hers out in therapy, and will have the opportunity to work it out. I know my previous t would have GREATLY preferred i acted out more in therapy, rather than come in on a monday and announce i got married over the weekend, without ever mentioning my plans to t beforehand. Its not the details of what happened - oh, she cried and went home from work - that is important. Because lets face it, we both have her beat on that account. Its the big picture. She is working it out with her t. I was still in the mode of treating my t like my actual mother - "what i do doesnt concern you" because that was the message she gave me from day 1 - that what i needed didnt concern her. My current t - EVERYTHING about me concerns him. Its reparative. We need it for as long as we need it, then we learn to walk on our own.
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She isn't in therapy. This person isn't a therapist. Sure she acts it out in real life.
She cries so bad at her work place that she is asked to leave and then goes home and drinks half a bottle of vodka. That is as acting out in real life as it can be among other things she described.
I actually am in therapy but started fairly recently. I am sharing my experience to show her That I understand unhealthy thinking and attachments. Sooner she starts to heal better she will get.
I can't just sit here and say what she is doing is fine and dandy. I care about people. If anyone in my family drank like this and otherwise self-destruct, I would be heart broken, this isn't ok.
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