Its okay to be upset with your t/rabbi/whatever. Its okay if things dont always go smoothly when you are healing. That is part of the process of healing. Its like learning how to fight, how to argue. There is a good way to argue and a bad way. Thats what i was getting at earlier, about the circular arguments, with divine1996. In a good fight, you both know that you both care how the other person feels. In a bad fight, at least one person just wants the other person to leave them alone, you dont care how they feel. For example, my mother just wanted to win an argument, even if it meant switching sides if you started to agree with her! Part of therapy is learning how to fight well within the relationship.