My university does have counseling services, but the one for students likes to push pills. And they don't have a trained sex therapist. They have couple's counseling, but the issues in my relationship are primarily sexual, so I don't really see it working beyond a session or two and then we'd have to go to another city (there are no sex therapists in this city of 300,000 for some reason) anyway.

I just don't know what I'm supposed say in an e-mail to a sex therapist. I'm just afraid we aren't going to be taken seriously. I mean, we're boyfriend and girlfriend (as opposed to husband and wife) and are living separately at the moment. And technically, we've only been together a few months. We just happen to take our relationship pretty seriously and are planning for the future. I just foresee there being more issues later if we don't fix the sex issues now. But I don't know…I have this feeling that we won't be taken seriously and we'll be judged for having sex so early in our relationship (and before marriage).

And then would I need to find another therapist for my anxiety outside of physical intimacy?