Hi, I am a 22 year old girl and my partner is 32. We dated for one year. My parents disapproved of him because they though he was a lower social class, also his past, family, nothing to show for his age ect. We had our ups and downs but within about 3 months my parents said leave the house or live with us and done be with him. So I followed my heart and I left to live with him.

He is wonderful is so many ways, loyal, honest, faithful, funny, smart, protective and he has depression and anxiety which he takes medication for. For the past 6 months he hasn’t been working or studying because he put of starting university till the start of the year instead mid year intake. This lead his life to become unstable, his sleep pattern is awful because he cant sleep at night so he watches movies therefore I cannot sleep. He used to be on the computer all night which I said I don’t like id rather him be with him at the cost of me not sleeping properly. So from this he sleeps all day which leaves me alone, he then wakes up and goes on his computer. He is a fussy eater and does not usually eat what I make and when he does wake up he wont have dinner with me because it’s his breakfast time. This leaves me feeling alone, ignored, neglected. I kept telling him that and he didn’t take it seriously but I love him and want him more than ever. It felt right at the time to leave because I was fed up so I left when he went out to get dinner, I packed my bags and called my parents to get me and they were so thrilled. It will break there hearts if I say I’m going back.

He doesn’t cook, clean, do laundry, exercise or help around at all. He says he is unmotivated and in a bad place.

I do love him, I have become more of a woman in this year, I have become more happy, confidant, ready to go out into the world. I felt as if I was not the right woman for him because I thought he needed to be put in line, he is the type of man who doesn’t like to be told what to do. But I went to his house today and we spoke and I realised he does have a condition, he was never bad to me at all. He needs compassion and I left him. Now I want back and he im sure he will want me back but my parents hate him, it will break there hearts. Also am I even doing the right thing going back?

I have asked this question on other forums (non mental health ones) and people have said, hes lazy, selfish and im being his mother. Pretty much saying leave him or don’t go back. But I want advice from people who understand this illness and can give me advice.