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Originally Posted by Orvel
I've read "The road less traveled". It was recommended by my therapist. It is interesting. The book says that there needs to be a healthy level of criticism, I also believe this. Classroom on the other hand is a different thing. You can't really know every child.
Well, my sister turned out fairly well, but then again ... she always was "daddy's little princess". If things don't go the way she wants, she goes to him and cries. If she does something wrong, he generally gets angry just a little bit. I do something wrong, it's the end of the world. She fights with mom and can't win, so she goes to dad so that he can defend her and reason with mom. I always got all the pressure from him... even today... "you should go out and find a girl!". I've never heard him say "you should find a boyfriend!" to my sister. My sister teases me in a painful spot, I fight back. He says "Hey! Children you should get along". Why didn't he defend me when she attacked me? Because he from time to time added to the teasing together with her, like I deserve it! I called him out a few weeks ago on this, he laughed cynically. When he saw that I was being really serious and hurt for this, he was a bit sad and tried to make jokes to somehow save the situation.
Yes, I understand ... they think they know what is best for us FROM THEIR POINT OF VIEW.
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It's curious, Orvel. Our stories are very similar with the only difference of gender. It was my brother, the one who was the prince in my house. I'd never was anyone's princess. My mother always wanted a baby boy as her first child but she had me. So, 11 months later, my brother was born.
Anyway, my mother was always very caring with both but my godfather whose wife couldn't have a baby, wanted to adopt me and my mum was the only one who recused this posibility. My father didn't say anything. He even had doubts.
My father treated both, my brother and me, in such a different way. All I did or talked was wrong. My brother was always right.
But, it doesn't matter. I'm content with what I am. I don't need to be the princess of anyone. I don't believe in blue blood.
Thank you for the reference to the book your therapist suggested it. I'm open to learn each day.