I rarely find that having someone be harsh is useful in causing me to change the way they want. But I also believe everyone does things in their own time and that I cannot save anyone from themselves. And I really do not want anyone trying to save me from myself. But others have different views on it. There is nothing I can think of that anyone could have said to me that would have made me be different than I was and am at any given moment. I do not regret my journey in that fashion nor would I have thanked anyone for trying to interfere with it. I sometimes observe people and think - yes, that is a place I remember going through and although unpleasant it was at least my own - I never think I can or even have the right to try and get them to another place faster or differently. It is their journey and not mine.