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they just are trained to blame the client for it.
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Some probably are trained this way. I am in my 2nd year of school and so far nobody has told me to blame things on the client. I hope that when (not if, because I will fail a client sometime no matter how hard I try not to) I fail a client then I will be able to freely admit it.
I have an ex-T who hasn't really been able to admit she failed me. Instead she talked about how therapy is an "imperfect art" and nothing could be guaranteed. Which is somewhat valid except there were very concrete things she could have done better. Her inability to take responsibility for those things really pisses me off as a client and even more as a future T. But if she were better able to pay attention to the areas where she fell short, and take responsibility for them, then she probably wouldn't have had to refer me in the first place.