I'm sorry you've had this experience. I've been reading some of the posts (the whole thread is too long). Personally I know what these things can be like sometimes and I wish she could help you process the experience. I agree with stopdog that she could have at least given you some notice so the shock could have been lessened. I've been through something similar, though in my case it lasted a lot more than a day, and being confronted with my therapist's personal life in ways I wasn't ready or willing to be confronted really messed with my therapy for a long time. Now my relationship with my therapist is good but I'm still affected by it with regards to my initial objectives in therapy due to what happened. So yes, your life coach has a daughter that's not you, and I imagine you knew that before, but there's a difference between knowing and being forced to work at her daughter's concert and see your lc in that position, without even being prevented about it.

My therapist at least had very healthy boundaries outside of that particular context and that helped. I am concerned about you because your posts that I've read so far seem to indicate your lc does not have the necessary professional boundaries. I know what you mean about posting only when things go wrong; it seems understandable to me, since that's when you need support. It's just that some things I've read from you just shouldn't happen in a therapeutic relationship (and you seem to be using the relationship with your lc as a therapeutic one). I'm not trying to attack you and your personal journey, even though I understand how it may look like that when you're seeking support and (also) receive criticisms toward your lc, who is an important person in your life. I just hope that you will be more helped than harmed by this relationship overall and that it will help you to move forward in your life rather than hold you back.

As for the psychiatrist, I'd look at it from a different perspective (unless you know your lc to try and get money at any cost - I honestly didn't get that feeling from what I've read from your posts but you know better). I've also been in a position to refer people to other professionals, and personally I do prefer to recommend people I know well. This is not because it would impact positively on me, but rather because 1. I feel like I'm helping not just one but two people about whom I care, and 2. when I know someone more closely, I know better what their level of competence is. So there are also other reasons why she might have referred you to her boyfriend - if she even did, because it sounds like you can't be totally sure that that's the case.