if you put together the con list from just this post i think you will see the reality of this relationship. it does not seem as if he trusts you to hang out with your friends. it doesnt seen like you are misinterpreting the fact he is over reacting to your relationship with your ex's. your returning anxiety is a sign. anxiety is a natural function of the body. it is part of our fight/flight response. we sense danger, we have and automatic anxious response, we fight/flight to protect ourselves. why is yours in overdrive in this relationship? is this healthy for you? and love? i am not a good one to talk to about love. i have seen many people in love and i dont want to minimize your feelings, but i have seen so many people describe it as you do, have break ups and then in the next relationship, that person is the love of their life. i have never understood how there could be so many "soul mates" in one persons life. so while the feelings now seem strong, from what i have witnessed, those feelings will go away the farther out of the relationship you get. many people mistake lonliness for love, just having a person in their life makes them love them cause they cant bear the idea of being alone. so put togehter a pro/con list and see if this is something you really want, if it is really healthy and make your choice from that..take care