Thanks Jane - yes, I've done that before: sent T a text and said "just so you know, this is going on, but I don't want to talk about it." She's okay with that. I think, for right now, I'm not feeling desperate, I'm feeling more confused and I need space to think about it. I'm not going to do anything drastic and talking to her now won't help any more than waiting until my next session. I always have the option to change my mind, though.