> It doesn't involve deep connected feeling... IMO it can't. There is a wall that supposedly has to be there.

hmm. i wonder if it is that he is a bit distant / aloof, or if it is that you don't let him in.

i feel really connected with my t sometimes. sometimes i have to pull back from it cause it feels too intimate. it is like... i'm feeling an emotion and he kinda leans forward and its like i can feel him feeling it too. weird, huh. but its a sense of connection to be sure. a deep connected feeling.

i'm wondering whether the wall is one that he has provided or if it is a wall of self defence that you have. if the latter then it would make sense of his comment that you don't trust him..