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Originally Posted by CosmicRose
If I were you I would have very minimal contact with that side of the family. You don't have to talk to them at all after the way they treated you. Just focus on having a wonderful marriage with your husband and bringing your baby into the world. Having in-laws babysit for only one day a week doesn't even sound worth it to me, you'll need someone to babysit more often than one day a week. Try to hire a very responsible babysitter or work out another arrangement. Those in-laws seem like the type to hold it against you if you ask them to look after your child...and again, one day a week just isn't enough anyway.
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Well, the appeal is that it does reduce the cost of daycare by bit, which isn't nothing. We're already trying to alter schedules so that we can each work from home one day a week. I am not crazy about how they treated me either, to be really honest with you, but I didn't have grandparents or a close family growing up. It is something I would like to TRY to give my kids if they can be amenable. My main concern though is that his grandmother is a HUGE sore spot. There are just so many reasons why I don't want her anywhere near my kids.I don't want them learning racial slurs before pre-school and she is very anti-semitic. Our kids will be raised Jewish, so... That makes things kind of awkward for us...
It's just really hard to even suggest to my mother in law that her mother is a horrible person to watch children and that as little as I like how my mother in law treated me, I like how her mother treated me even less. I mean, how is she going to handle being around half-Jewish half-"demon" kids?! It's frustrating because she's completely in denial and I KNOW that bringing it up will mean my husband is cut off from his family. It sounds horrible but I am quietly hoping this woman dies (she is also quite sick) before it becomes an issue just so I can pretend to mourn (keep the peace) and then be quietly happy that I don't have to face any arguments about it with my mother in law. I'm afraid that she will turn out to be immortal, powered by the energy that racism brings her.