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Originally Posted by growlithing
I'm worried that I'll feel abandoned even though I know she didn't abandon me and start acting out. I need to remind myself she isn't abandoning me.
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And this is exactly why the two week break is an excellent opportunity. You'll see that she comes back. Just through that she'll be helpig you with abandonment issues.
As I said at the start of this massive thread.... find things to do that will show her how you're making progress and healthier choices. Don't let yourself wallow in the act of missing her - that's just putting your life on halt. Show her how you can thrive even without her being there or easily accessible. Use whatever skills she's been trying to teach you. Show her and yourself that you can function independently.
It'll make both of you feel really proud. And then you can spend the time when she returns celebrating your successes and her vacation instead of anything negative.
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